“Life Without Him” Charlie Bear with LAA #24

July 14, 2011 at 11:29 am 22 comments

I’m alone in the big house with Mom and Dad now. One of Mom’s friends told her something that stuck with her.

GIRLFRIEND TO MOM: “You never get used to losing them, you only get used to living without them.”

Big dog Rex really was a good dog. They loved him a lot. I mean a whole lot. I just hope that I can be that good of a dog one day.

I started to think of all the things Rex taught me since I came to live here eight months ago.

First, how to be a good sleeper. No fussing. No barking. Rex always went right to bed in his room at 7:30 and got up in the morning when they opened his door around 6:00. He got that cushy home office because of the two cats that used to live here. They needed time to roam alone, so Rex got the office at night. Lucky dog. I got a wire pen and a plastic crate set up in the family room. After the first few nights, I learned to go inside my den, find my treats they threw in for me, then lie down and go to sleep. They got me up when Rex got up.

Second, how to tolerate rubdowns.  I didn’t like getting rubbed around my rear end (I had those issues if you remember). But even if it’s raining, a dog has to relieve himself. I watched Rex walk outside, head held high. He did his thing and even stood out there sometimes and let the rain fall onto his face. Me, I didn’t like the rain, but we both had to get towel dried when we came in. He showed me how to buck up and take it like a man, standing still and letting Mom rub us all over.

Third, how to stifle my urge to bark. When I first came here, I wanted to defend my turf and let the neighborhood know I wasn’t someone to mess with. Two wiry Terriers live next door and they’d climb up onto a high point in the yard, look over at Rex and me, and then bark up a tornado. And I wasn’t supposed to answer? Rex didn’t. He just walked away. I shut my mouth too. And you know what? It got quieter all the way around. Mom and Dad didn’t yell (they hated the barking), and those high-strung little monkeys eventually engaged with other dogs.

Trouble was, for all the times I attacked Rex, for all the moments when I wished I was an only dog and had the peeps to myself, I really miss him.

Rex, you left big paws to fill.

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  • 1. Thomas jamison  |  July 20, 2011 at 8:06 am

    I have a dog by the name of Tuff, He is fourteen years old.
    He needs more doctor’s care at this time. Yet,I have decided
    not to take extra measures that cost thousand of dollars to
    keep him alive but ordinary treatment to keep him comfortable.
    I love him very much but he is just a dog or pet. I would have done
    anything to keep my daughter alive but it was taken out of my hands.
    I know that I will miss Tuff very much. He will be part of my memory
    of good days…

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    • 2. bjtaylorblog  |  July 20, 2011 at 10:25 am

      Thomas and Tuff,
      Charlie Bear here — Tuff, sorry to hear you are needing more doctor’s care. That’s the pits. Rex needed a lot of that too. Me…I just need puppyhood shots and stuff right now and I’m glad about that. My Mom Peep says to tell you, Thomas, that she is so very sorry you lost your daughter. She has no idea what that must feel like but she feels for you just the same. We both send our condolences.
      Woofs and wiggles to both of you,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 3. Susan  |  July 15, 2011 at 3:29 pm

    Charlie: I did not know that dogs needed to be taught to be a good sleeper by a doggy mentor. My Rascal did not have a mentor; he must have been an extra good dog! I did not know they were stiffling barking when they weren’t barking. I loved to occasionally hear Rascal bark; he was talking to me….I don’t know exactly what he was saying though.

    I think that if you are just yourself, you will help your peep and are loved just for being you…
    Love,
    Susan

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    • 4. bjtaylorblog  |  July 15, 2011 at 6:07 pm

      Susan,
      Most dogs don’t need to be taught much of anything — they know it instinctively; but I was out on the streets for most of my first year and ran with a wild pack. I didn’t really learn how to be an inside dog much, like how to sleep good and not to bark, etc. Big dog Rex really was a good mentor to me.
      I know my Mom Peep loves me for being me. She tells me I’m WAY different than the big dog. I think she’s right!
      Woofs and wiggles,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 5. Linda Anderson  |  July 15, 2011 at 2:41 pm

    Awe CB you are tearing me up……Rex was a great example for you!

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    • 6. bjtaylorblog  |  July 15, 2011 at 3:21 pm

      Dear Linda,
      Mom Peep says she saw you and another dog, I think named Zig or Zack, a week ago. Cute little buggers she said. I appreciate your condolences on losing Rex. He was a really good example for me.
      Woofs and wiggles,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 7. Marianne  |  July 14, 2011 at 9:34 pm

    Charlie Bear, i know you miss him, and will always remember Rex. Our dogs always need extra love for a while while adjusting to life without their rock. Thank you for sharing.

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    • 8. bjtaylorblog  |  July 15, 2011 at 6:58 am

      Marianne,
      I do miss Rex. More than I thought I would. But Mom Peep misses him the most. She’s comforting me and I’m trying to comfort her. Thanks for commenting on my blog post.
      Woofs to you,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 9. Jean Stewart  |  July 14, 2011 at 7:29 pm

    Beautiful, Charlie Bear, you’re a good learner. Take good care of your peeps, both of them.

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    • 10. bjtaylorblog  |  July 14, 2011 at 7:53 pm

      Jean,
      I’m trying to learn — it’s hard when I think I know it all already! I’m giving both Mom and Dad extra loving, like you said.
      Woofs to you,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 11. Chris Pedersen  |  July 14, 2011 at 2:10 pm

    Take heart, Charlie Bear, you just might see Rex in that other world the peeps talk about.

    “high fours”
    Brandy (Getting older and sleeping more)

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    • 12. bjtaylorblog  |  July 14, 2011 at 2:35 pm

      Brandy,
      We’ll both see our furry friends over the Rainbow Bridge some day. I can’t wait…oh, yes, I think I will wait. I have lots of living here to do. And Mom Peep needs me.
      High Fours to you too!
      Wiggles and woofs,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 13. Lois Hudson  |  July 14, 2011 at 1:11 pm

    Very touching post Charlie. I know you are lonesome in spite of yourself!

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    • 14. bjtaylorblog  |  July 14, 2011 at 2:33 pm

      Lois,
      Yup, you are so right. I am lonesome without Rex. He was a cool guy. Thanks for understanding.
      Wiggles,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 15. garmonjulie  |  July 14, 2011 at 12:39 pm

    Charlie Bear, I can tell. You’re a quick learner. And you had a fine teacher, and a whole lotta love. Did you know Clyde looks a lot like your Rex-friend?

    xoxo

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    • 16. bjtaylorblog  |  July 14, 2011 at 2:32 pm

      Julie,
      So Rex looked like your Clyde? Did you send Mom Peep a picture for her summertime fun-loving dogs? She asked for the photos before Rex got sick, but she still plans to post the pictures sometime later this month I think. Send one. She’d like that. And I want to see if he really did look like Rex.
      Woofs and wiggles,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 17. writerheart1  |  July 14, 2011 at 12:09 pm

    Charlie Bear, sit in the laps of your peeps and kiss them often. Rex would want you to do that.

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    • 18. bjtaylorblog  |  July 14, 2011 at 2:30 pm

      Barbara,
      Funny you said to sit on their laps. Mom Peep likes that lately. And she buries her face in my soft fur.
      Wiggles to you,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 19. writerheart1  |  July 14, 2011 at 12:07 pm

    So sweet. My Emily (Chi mix) was so sad when Sarah the Chi died even though I didn’t they they were big pals…Emily came along several years after I got Sarah who thought she was a person and went everywhere with me. But evidently she’d been closer to Sarah than I thought. No surprise that I got us another dog just three or four weeks later who adored Emily. Once again, such sadness after he died. Now the two little Chihuahuas raised together for several years run around as a team and don’t play with Emily often but she seems happier that she’s not the only dog in the house. Well, until the doorbell rings on tv and they go racing past her, barking and waking her up as they bump her bed.

    Charlie Bear, sit in the laps of your peeps and kiss them often. Rex would want you to do that.

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    • 20. bjtaylorblog  |  July 14, 2011 at 2:29 pm

      Barbara,
      I think I’m a person! A little man stuck in a dog body! Just kidding (sort of). Anyway, so sad that your Chi’s went over the Rainbow Bridge, but glad you have your Emily still and your other furry friends. I’ll give Mom Peep lots of extra loving. I think Rex would like that as you said.
      Woofs to you,
      Charlie Bear

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  • 21. Debora Dale  |  July 14, 2011 at 11:43 am

    What a hearfelt tribute to Rex. I can easily tell how much he was and still is loved. I’ve lost some best friends as well, and take comfort from the opening words here: You never get used to losing them. You only get used to living without them.” And even that takes time.

    Please take time for yourself but be comforted by the truth that Rex knew he was loved and was clearly comfortable and happy. ❤

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    • 22. bjtaylorblog  |  July 14, 2011 at 2:25 pm

      Debora,
      Thank you for the kind words for my Peep Mom. She agrees that it takes time to even get used to the living without him. And she loves that you said Rex knew he was loved. I think he truly did.
      Woofs and wiggles from me, the little one left behind,
      Charlie Bear

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